Mother mind-games; obstacles and goals

My mother believes that she’s helpful [although she is not].
She picks apart situations, and informs you of everything you need to do, immediately, because the current situation is simply incorrect.  She does this from a place of love and concern [though it’s impolite and unwelcome].    When you inevitably resist or dismiss her instructions, she proceeds to ‘worry about you’, escalating the situation, inflicting more damage.
It’s horrible, and it starts to stress us out.
She sees that we’re stressed out, and proceeds to ‘worry more’, because clearly the problem is that we didn’t obey her instructions in the first place. So she gives more instructions.
Weeks ago, without having a single conversation with me or anyone else about my life, my mother decided for me that my life was squandered. She then commanded me to move to a different city, quit my job, and start doing something else entirely ; honestly believing that I’d be happier.  Instead of arguing about how tactless and invasive she is,  and I walked out of the house.
I tried to not talk with her the rest of the week.
She was annoyed with this strategy, and so, she invited herself to come back the following week. And the week after, and the week after.
She has been near me for the past several weekends. Providing commentary on my diet, hobbies, and cleanliness. Disrupting my habits, and literally forcing me to change my personality so that she doesn’t accidentally learn new information about me.
My mom sees everything as ‘obstacles/goals’, and she strategizes with a sense of such monumental urgency, that she’s already visualizing the end-game, and you’re already a disappointment.

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Multigenerational Ignorance

I think basic medical training in elementary schools would greatly improve the hygiene of the population in the long term.
I have a friend who is a Registered Nurse, and I am constantly trying to get her to go into her kids school and teach the children about hygiene; washing hands, bacteria,  flu, colds, meningitis, and food poisoning.
In regular public education, there was practically no health or medical training. I think 9th grade biology was the closest I ever got to learning about infections.

It doesn’t seem like anyone teaches basic life skills anymore. Not schools or parents . We have whole generations that aren’t proficient in basic domestic skills. It seems like these skills were lost a generation ago, and we now have children that won’t ever learn it, because their parents never did.
Would you know how to handle a flu? Change a tire? Cook an omelet? Mend a torn garment? Care for wood furniture?
Health and hygiene stand out to me, because I see a generation of adults that aren’t good caregivers or housekeepers. They feed their young children junk food, and neglect their home maintenance.
In light of such large societal failings, the normal solution would be for the government pick up the slack, but with the shrinking budget for public education, this seems unlikely. I see the quality of life decreasing with every generation.
Health is on the decline; Heart Disease and Obesity rates  climb, healthcare costs raise, drug addictions lower life expectancy.  Indispensable luxury items strain finances, and the barriers to owning property increase.   Living paycheck to paycheck, people will prioritize, and cut corners where they can. All the while forgetting unnecessary information, like basic health, basic maintenance, and basic courtesy.

Religion for sale

I don’t know how, but I got stuck on a hypothetical question I overheard in a restaurant last week.
The customers asked their waitress what would a Church could do in order for her to consider being a repeat supporter. The waitress gave an  open-minded response about inclusiveness, but it wasn’t really specific.
I was a business major, so I started thinking about a Church like a ‘product’, which changed the question to : how can this company more effectively market their specific product to  me [aka their target audience]?
I think Churches often desire a diverse congregation, but the more diverse an audience, the more watered down their marketing strategy becomes. It wouldn’t be reasonable to advertise traditionalist stylings to a congregation of all ages, infant to senior, since not everyone wants that. It becomes difficult to lecture when only half the audience finds the presentation  relatable. I wouldn’t go to a store that specializes in the types of products I wasn’t shopping for; it wouldn’t be a good fit.

Most religions have the same types of teachings. Which means that the differences between Churches are created by the communities that surround them.
Like most Millennials, I spend a great deal of time online. It would be easiest for a company to market products to me with social media, and with as much emphasis on my age group as possible.
Most people age 25-35, aren’t interested in products aimed at families, children, or seniors. Millennials have their own way of doing things, and have something specific on their mind. In order for a Church to effectively market to me, it would have cater to people my age and demographic;   understand what’s important to me, and talk to me about things that I find relevant.

Hobby or Habit

Hobby or Habit; There are some things that can be both, depending on the person.
A regular leisure activities; like collecting, sports, or creative pursuits, are obviously hobbies, but if a person gets into a routine of doing the activity, the repetition becomes unconscious, and at that point it’s hard to stop; like an addiction, but most of the time perfectly harmless.
Fitness and hygiene; Both are common habits, and most people have dedicated routines for these activities.

I’ve gotten into arguments about whether or not video games are a hobby. It’s a leisure activity, but for some people it’s an addiction, and for others just it’s to combat boredom or loneliness.   Much in the same way that Gambling is intended to be for entertainment, but people have been known to become addicted to it.
Being a wine enthusiast is a hobby, but alcoholism is an addiction.
Food is not  itself a hobby [since everyone eats], but activities like cooking or seeking out a creative fine dining experiences is.
I’m thinking that some parameters make hobbies more realistic.
For example; restoring antique bicycles is a  hobby, but commuting to work via bicycle is a habitual activity, and undiscriminating hoarding all varieties of bicycles is an addiction.

I was fairly certain that everyone had a hobby of some kind. But the older I get, the more lackluster people I happen to meet.  People that have habits, but not really hobbies.
I’m always puzzled by these hobby-less people. I find that they’re spending their spare time on unskilled activities; like binge watching tv, or posting pictures with food. We live in an age of ever-present social media, so people don’t ever have to be alone [with themselves] in their leisure time.  The ability to ‘constantly update’ means that the habit of scrolling through the main feed is their hobby.